The most effective type of therapy depends on the unique needs of the relationship, but several evidence-based approaches are commonly used. At Modern Insight Therapy, our relationship therapists often use a blend of:

• Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) – to strengthen emotional bonds

• Gottman Method Couples Therapy – for building communication and trust

• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) – to identify and shift unhelpful patterns

• Relational and attachment-based approaches – to explore how past experiences impact current dynamics

Your therapist will collaborate with you to choose an approach that meets your goals and supports a stronger, healthier connection.

The “5-5-5 rule” is a simple relationship check-in strategy designed to promote quality time and open communication. It typically refers to spending:

• 5 minutes of meaningful conversation daily

• 5 hours of intentional time together weekly

• 5 days away together annually

At Modern Insight Therapy, we encourage couples to find rhythms of connection that work for their unique lifestyle and emotional needs—structured check-ins like this can be a great place to start.

The “3-6-9 rule” isn’t a clinical framework but has grown in popularity through social media. It’s often used to describe checkpoints or patterns in relationship development:

• 3 months – the honeymoon phase begins to fade, and deeper compatibility starts to show

• 6 months – values, habits, and communication styles become clearer

• 9 months – long-term potential and emotional patterns often come into sharper focus

At Modern Insight Therapy, we help couples navigate transitions at any stage—whether you’re newly dating, long-term partners, or somewhere in between.

Repairing a relationship takes time, effort, and often, support from a skilled therapist. At Modern Insight Therapy, we guide individuals and couples through the healing process with compassion and structure. Some key steps include:

• Rebuilding trust through honesty, accountability, and consistent actions

• Improving communication by learning how to express needs and listen with empathy

• Identifying underlying issues—like past wounds, unmet needs, or mismatched expectations

• Setting healthy boundaries that support connection rather than conflict

• Reconnecting emotionally and physically, if both partners are willing

Relationship therapy creates a safe space for this kind of repair, helping you move from resentment or disconnection toward clarity, respect, and reconnection.